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Thursday, February 5, 2015

Social anxiety

I never thought I had a problem with going into a crowded room of people and being able to socially maneuver through an evening until recently. I want to go out, make new friends, participate in activities but when I want to and how I want to. Any other way I end of overwhelmingly anxious and just want to go home. I know it sounds selfish but I think over the years I've grown to know what I like and what I dislike and anything else seems like a waste of time.

But I am trying. My husband does a great job with taking me out and we have made friends with neighbors, co-workers and are even expanding our circle. For the Superbowl we went to a party in our neighborhood and it was pretty low key and awesome but as more people arrived I started feeling the anxiety. I wonder if its also mixed with claustrophobia? I don't like being in any room with too many people. It makes me feel weird.

The strangest thing is that I am a Program Manager and I think I'm pretty adjusted at work. I've also been an adjunct instructor, served in the Marine Corps and have done many jobs requiring loads of interaction with people. Ironic I know. Well one day at a time! We are going to try to sign up for some classes like fencing or other classes and see where it takes us.


Monday, February 2, 2015

Average people doing extraordinary things

Do not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives. Such striving may seem admirable, but it is the way of foolishness. Help them instead to find the wonder and the marvel of an ordinary life. Show them the joy of tasting tomatoes, apples and pears. Show them how to cry when pets and people die. Show them the infinite pleasure in the touch of a hand. And make the ordinary come alive for them. The extraordinary will take care of itself.” ― William Martin


I don't think I ever see enough stories telling people about non-celebrity individuals doing extraordinary things. Where are the articles showing how a single mom is doing a great job raising her kids? Or how a local member of the community has committed over 1,000+ volunteer hours? Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn among other sites have provided the world with such a great way of connecting but it can also be overwhelming sometimes. I want to not only be inspired by people of the past but also by the people of today. I do like the quote I found by William Martin. Finding the extraordinary in the ordinary day to day events. I have a hard time sometimes stopping and finding the wonder and joy but each day I'm striving to do a little better.


Saturday, January 24, 2015

Granada, Spain...Add to countries to visit?

It is no surprise to my husband or my family I want to travel the world. I was watching House Hunters International on Netflix and saw an episode on Granada, Spain and I want to add it to the list of places I want to visit. The Alhambra was a real draw and the historic aspect gives me the goosebumps. It was originally constructed as a fortress and then renovated as a palace.

I loved how the show highlighted the people, the homes, and the beauty of the city. There is so many places I want to visit and maybe even live in for a few years. I love my husband for agreeing to look at our path every few years and seeing if it is the right path for us. I don't want to chase the money and my husband agrees.  Life should be about the experiences, the memories, the love. I want to enjoy life. I want to learn, grow, love and experience new things. The show did highlight some of the couples with children and it made me happy. This is the year we hope to get pregnant and its nice to see bringing children around the word doesn't hinder couples. With my husband I feel it would only bring us closer. So the countries now are Italy, Greece, Japan, China, Peru, Argentina, Chile, Spain, France and Spain! I can't wait!

Friday, January 23, 2015

Thoughts on my daily work routine

Husband and I at a Virginia Winery
What powers our desires to be happy at work? I wake up at 6:00am and return 12 hours later often hungry, grumpy and wishing for alternatives to the daily commute and the daily grind of office work. My job itself can be great at times and my feelings are certainly no reflection of the company and customers we interact with on a daily basis but in the back of my mind I always wonder, is there a better way? I often change my mind on what I want to do with my life in terms of career choices. I seek to be intellectually challenged, have a sense of contribution to society while being able to enjoy and interweave my personal life goals into the equation.

I have a bucket-type list of things I want to accomplish in life such as running the Marine Corps Marathon, visiting several countries, seeing the Mayan ruins, jump out of more planes, have 5 children with my husband and teach them how to be nerds of science and space, learn how to can and preserve food, learn French, maybe run a personal farm among some other things. I know in order to accomplish much of this I need to have stability in my career and there also needs to be stability in my husband’s career but I can’t escape the feelings of wanting to just explore the world, explore all the things I want to learn and not be restricted. I guess its all part of being responsible and an adult but I can dream of one day finding a perfect balance. 

Thursday, November 13, 2014

Growing older

Growing older never really bothered me. It is a fact of life. Every year as my birthday approaches I look at how life has treated me. Sometimes it has been nothing but good reflections and other years bad but I got through them. When I used to go to church often I used to thank God for allowing me another year on this beautiful earth. Now I thank life. I still believe in a higher entity, a higher spirituality but I think each individual has the capacity to decide what brings them peace. I think I was probably in my early 20s when I came across The Tao of Pooh and it really struck a chord on how I wanted to live my life. Living in harmony with the Tao "way/path/principle". I took it as having that philosophical, ethical and moral compass to do the right thing. Be a good person in life. Make mistakes, but learn from them. Work hard and grow from your experiences. Seek knowledge and enlighten yourself and those around you. 

Why do I think about these thoughts on chilly Thursday evening? I was looking at my husband as we were watching television and thinking of how lucky I am to find someone that is patient, kind, witty and loves me. It can be hard finding your own path in this world but it is certainly great to find a partner willing to forge a path with you.